By Emily Thrasher
One of the most important things I have done in my life recently is earnestly putting forth effort into learning to let go. I am learning to let go in many ways. I have begun to let go of grudges, and hurt feelings. I have begun to let go of the past; what’s done is done and it’s time to move forward.
In the start of learning to let go, I had a tough time understanding the difference between being able to let go and on giving up. I was doing more giving up in life then I had intended to. My life went from unhealthy to damned miserable. And for most things, I had no one to blame for it but myself.
I only had one thing going for me at this point; that I wanted to make changes for a happier healthy life. I knew the answers were there, if I could only look inside myself and find them.
I spent a few weeks almost completely alone and did some deep soul searching. I realized being able to let go was a matter of perspective; being able to change one’s own perspective into a more realistic and blissful one is the answer.
When you think you’ve found the one for you and want to be in a relationship with that person, but that person isn’t on the same page with you; they don’t want a relationship. You can’t force the relationship on that other person and I doubt you would want to.
The goal is to remain emotionally healthy and by having an unfulfilled desire bubbling inside you, it will cause unhealthy amounts of stress. The only wise thing to do in this situation is to let go of the idea of being in a relationship with that person. It’s time to learn to let go and move on.
Some ways to be able to let go is to change the way you think about that person, change the way you see that person, change your expectations, and change your attitude toward that person. In summary, you need to change your perspectives and perceptions. And maybe, not having the person in your life any longer is the answer, in extreme circumstances.
This is just one general example about letting go and how perspective and perceptions play a huge role in being able to let go. The same idea goes for any other type of situation that requires a person to be able to let go. The point is, by changing your perception or perspective about a situation, your attitude about it changes and the ties that bound you are loosened or broken.
By finally being able to understand this, I have begun the treacherous task of weeding through my psyche and casting off old baggage that I shouldn’t be carrying around. I have freed myself from many things that was dragging me down and preventing me from fully enjoying life.
Thankfully, I have let go of enough that my life is no longer miserable. I am mostly happy in almost all aspects of my life. I am still on a path of improvement, but I have come a long way from the hopeless gloomy wretch that I once was.
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